Effective Youth Ministry Includes Coaching

Her name was Tiffanie. She wanted to know what I thought of Brandon…. so I told her. Brandon chewed girls up and spit them out, ad if she went out with him she would just be next in line. I thought I was doing the right thing, but the telling paradigm pushed her into his arms. She was so excited he asked her out. She wanted to prove me wrong. So instead of helping her I burned the bridge of relationship we had built together. She was embarrassed, frustrated and ashamed when she did indeed become next in line. I was right, but I had lost so much. We were never close again and I was out of her life…

Coaching changes things. What if I had asked her powerful questions? What if I had listened to her heart?… What if I had even let her make a poor decision but remained her friend and left the bridge intact?